There are positive daily action steps you can implement if you are serious in wanting to improve your self esteem. The most important step to take, and when you can truly begin your journey of growth, is when you decide to care more about yourself, to love yourself more, and to be kinder to you.
Of highest importance is to clearly identify and understand your personal values. These values are fundamentally important, and define us as individuals. These values make you…you!
The next, and harder, steps are ensuring that you live in harmony with your values. When you live in harmony with your core values you can build higher self-esteem.
To grow as a person and improve self esteem you need to take positive action every day. Simple things that remind you how amazing you are and which build your sense of worth and confidence.
In this post we share some of the simple, positive actions steps you can do daily and which will help to improve self esteem.
Daily Positive Action To Improve Your Self Esteem
Number 1 – Take Care of Your Body and Mind
For those with poor self esteem it is often hard to read these articles that tell you that you have to love yourself. They all seem to say the same thing. You must love yourself!
You probably already know that, and you also probably have no doubt that loving who you are is important. But, if you are like me, it’s easy to know these things, but it is much harder to put into practice!
So let’s begin with some simple and easy to implement steps. These steps signal clearly to our body, our mind and our spirit that we do truly love and care about ourselves!
The first step is to start treating your physical body with respect and care. Supporting your body will pay dividends. It will ensure you are healthy and in a mind set for change and it sends a clear signal to the world that you love you!.
Ensure you get enough sleep. Make sure you plan activities that you really enjoy and spend time with people that you love.
Doing activities you enjoy and spending time with loved ones helps us to care for our mind as well as our body. This is essential as it signals to our psyche that we feature highly on any decision making priority list.
Number 2 – It’s Okay To Admit You Need To Get to Know Yourself
This may sound odd. But the reality is many of us don’t really know ourselves that well.
We often live our lives doing the things we hope will make others happy. We tell ourselves the are the things we like. We try to fit ourselves into a framework for others.
The problem is, somewhere deep within, we know that we are not being true to us.
If we live a life doing things that are not true to us then we do not make anyone happy. We don’t live a life true to ourselves and because of this we don’t make those important to us happy either.
It ends us in a horrible circle. The more we do to please others, the less we like ourselves. The reality is you can only really love others when they, and you, know that you are being true and honest to yourself.
You will only improve your self esteem when you truly know and understand who you are and what you stand for.
To start this journey the best step is to pay attention to your intuitive voice.
Pay attention to your intuitive inner voice by keeping a journal. When you participate in an activity, or you are invited to do something, take a moment and pause. Focus your thoughts on if this is correct for you and rely on your inner voice to guide you.
Make sure you journal all the times in the day that you felt uncomfortable, or when you were not enjoying what you were doing. Also journal times where you wished you were doing something else. This will soon build up a very clear picture of who you are and what you enjoy.
There are obviously times in life that we have to do things we don’t enjoy. It may be we are in a job we don’t enjoy but know we must work to feed ourselves and family. That is still helpful to know. It helps us build our self-picture and sends a signal to us to look for something more meaningful.
Number 3 – Know Your Core Values
When we are unclear about our core values, those fundamental principles that guide our lives, we can feel disempowered, directionless and even totally powerless.
Taking the time needed to regain clarity about our core values and beliefs will help us to make choices that are correct for us and our life. Only then will we be able to feel good about who we are.
When you do something because others expect it, or you think it is expected, you act against your core values. This harms the way you see yourself.
In the same way when you truly believe in something but then act in a way that is different, it harms you and your belief in you.
Use your journal to define your core beliefs. Start by asking yourself the question “What values and actions do I really believe in?
If nothing intuitively comes to you and you can’t list your beliefs start making time to pause and reflect when you are asked to do certain things by others.
The times that your core values will be most easily identified are when the extremes of life are present. These are extreme happiness or joy and times of extreme anger and conflict.
When you are truly happy, you know it, and you will be most aligned with your inner core values – note them down. Or note down what it was that was happening that made you feel so intrinsically good.
Likewise if you are in some form of conflict, or a conflict is happening around you try to identify what it is that makes you angry, uncomfortable or stressed. These emotions are usually felt because something is making you act against your core values and your emotions are alerting you.
Times of crisis and conflict, times of true joy, are when your core values are most heightened. Pay attention. Note down your thoughts, your inner feelings and how you believe you should act.
Very soon you will have no doubt as to your core values. Living life in alignment to your values is the most impactful step you can take to improve your self esteem.
Number 4 – How To Eat An Elephant
So, you have probably heard the old story… How Do You Eat An Elephant? The answer being… “One bite at a Time!”
The same truth is true for when making changes in our life to improve our self esteem. One bite at a time!
Don’t try to do everything at once! That can be overwhelming. And when we become overwhelmed we tend to go back to our old habits.
So whatever you decide you want to change, maybe it’s getting up a little earlier, or eating healthy food, or even writing in your journal everyday, start with one positive action step.
What is the one thing that you know you can do and stick with it every day for a month.
Start with a small and manageable step. After a month it is now part of you and your life. When you see and feel the difference this positive action step has made, you will then intrinsically know that you can make positive changes in your life. And you’ll have the inner confidence and raised self esteem to tackle any bigger or trickier areas.
Number 5 – Smile And You Smile With You!
Forget the old saying “Smile and the world smiles with you”. The world will smile with you when your smile is a reflection of yourself!
It is a recognized fact, that when we frown or look stony faced, we are also unconsciously sending a signal to our brain that we are unhappy. This was shown very clearly when psychologists at the University of Cardiff in Wales found that a group of people whose ability to frown was compromised by cosmetic botox injections were happier, on average, than people who could frown. Our brain then does what it is signalled to do.
So it makes total sense that smiling sends the same kinds of signal to our brain. A more helpful signal, one of happiness, which helps elevate our mood and lower our stress.
Even if we don’t feel happy, just the simple act of making yourself smile can actually change the way we feel and improve our outlook.
Others are then affected by our smile and see us more positively too.
Most good self-help books say the way others see us shouldn’t be a measure for how we feel about ourselves, and this is true, but the reality is that for most of us it does matter how others see us and it does impact upon us.
When others have positive views of us it boosts our self view. So while we should not live our life to please others and gain their approval, we should be able to feel good when others notice and see us as the positive and loving people that we are!
Number 6 – Present Yourself Like You Do A Smile
In a very similar way that smiling helps to improve your self esteem, the way you dress and present yourself to the world can have a similar effect.
When we wear clothes, even if it is a single item, that makes us feel good, we stand straighter and convey a sense of pride. This projects a positive image to the world.
So positive action step 6 is to choose clothes or styles that make you feel good, that showcase your individual personality and, most importantly, make you confident.
Number 7 – Punishing Yourself? Let Go & Forgive
If we really want our self esteem to improve then we need to be compassionate with ourselves.
Punishing ourselves for the mistakes we have made or the flaws we see in our life is going to halt all progress.
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has regrets. Everyone has moments they look back on and wish they had done things differently.
The reality is we can’t live looking back. We have to look to the future, face forward and brave! When we hold on to anger or upset and punish ourselves for mistakes made in the past we are not able to experience the future.
This positive action step is to identify what it is you are holding onto. Take some time to reflect and be totally honest with yourself. Use your journal and write down what comes to mind.
Then make a commitment to start afresh. Forgive yourself for all your past transgressions, mistakes and regrets. Sometimes people find it helps to write a letter to themselves where they express their forgiveness.
However you decide to forgive yourself is not important, what is important is that you do it. An easy and effective way do do this is as follows. Every morning as you rise, and every evening before you sleep look yourself in the mirror, remind yourself you have moved on from the past and tell yourself that you are forgiven and loved.
Number 8 – Be More Mindful.
In our positive action steps we are asked to pay attention to our intuitive inner voice.
Sometimes however, that inner voice isn’t the calm and reassuring voice of reason that we hope for. So what do we do we do when our inner voice is a harsh self critic or its opinion seems to be overly critical or negative?
Action Step 8 is to become the voice of reason. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, or when you hear your inner dialogue turning negative start to be mindful of the words it uses and use mindfulness techniques. Is there a pattern? Does it occur at similar times? What starts the inner critic?
Becoming aware of patterns that lead to your inner critic is crucial. And always be mindful that to improve your self esteem you are going to need to silence this negative self, once and for all.
Set yourself a goal that the next time you hear this negative inner dialogue, you are going to fight back.
Remind your inner voice that the conscious you, the one in the room, is not accepting any negativity. Tell the inner voice that you are aware that all negative or critical dialogue is simply our subconscious attempt to fall back into habit, or old routine.
Once you have done this, remind yourself that you no longer accept negativity, that it washes off and leaves no trace. Tell yourself that you are valued, you are worthy and you are not open to any negative feelings or critical talk. Put on your best smile and remind yourself how fabulous you are!
Number 9 – Embrace Challenges
Once we begin our journey towards improved self worth we soon see that every obstacle we come across and every setback in our life is actually an opportunity to grow, to learn more and to become a better person.
What once would have had us blaming ourselves, or making us feel worthless we now view as another chance to learn and improve.
So Action Point number 9 is to adopt a growth mindset.
A growth mindset is possible when we have silenced the inner critic. We are able to view any failure and times of challenge for what they are.
They are learning experiences and not mistakes.
This action step is crucial for developing a truly self compassionate attitude. When we are able to find the lesson or recognise the guidance that stems from a mistake, we are able to grow stronger.
Number 10 – Do Something That Scares You (Every Day)
Those people that have high self esteem are often easily spotted, because they are not afraid to take risks.
When we have confidence in ourselves, we don’t worry so much. WE don’t think about failing or about what other people might think.
So action point 10 is to do 1 small thing that scares you every day. It doesn’t need to be huge like jumping from a plane. Just do something that your normally wouldn’t, something that would normally make you tense or nervous.
Starting with these little things, talking to stranger on the bus, or to a new person at work, can help us develop inner confidence.
Learning to take smaller risks in everyday situations, where the stakes are low, can give you the confidence you need to take more considerable risks later that can help you achieve your goals.
There are many more things you can do on a daily basis to boost your self-esteem. Exercising, writing in a journal, connecting with friends and loved ones, setting goals for yourself, and improving your knowledge in a specific area are just a few more.
Anything you can do to nurture yourself, respond to your needs, and value who you are can help you improve your self esteem and become the more confident person you want to be.